What if Falling Isn't Failing...

and instead it's the opportunity to let go and detach that we need in order to truly break free...

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I watched a video the other day of a rollerblading race of a few younger girls. Near the beginning one of the girls stumbled and fell behind. As she got back up she was clearly no longer a part of the pack. But because of that she was able to go on, set her own pace, lap everyone, and win. 

I've thought a lot about that...

How often we get caught up in "societal norms".

Trying to check the boxes. 

"Fit in". 

Do it all. 

But we can't balance all the plates for ever. 

At some point they will all fall and crash and break. 

We can't wear all the hats all the time. 

At some point we have to take them off and breathe. 

There's so much shame around falling behind, being different, not being able to "handle" life and the situations we find ourselves in. 

But what if we looked at it differently??

What if instead of shame, failure, and defeat for falling, we saw it for the release and freedom that it is. 

Instead of keeping up with the pack, we now get to carve our own path, do it our way - a way that actually works for us individually. 

What if not being "normal" was valued as the super power that it is - we get to set our own pace, define our own rules of success, no longer be in comparison to others, no longer feeling limited by others abilities because of fear of being too much or too great. Or not enough. 

In the pack, all the girls were essentially defined by the skills of the others. In competition with each others ability, rather than simply performing to their own ability. 

We don't always have to "fall" to get here. But sometimes that's what it takes to help us break free. 

When we can feel the confidence of going solo we are no longer in attachment to others. And that COMPLETELY changes how we show up in relationships. 

It's not about being a loner or being alone. 

It's about creating space for you to show up fully and completely, and allowing others the space to show up fully and completely. 

Thinking about this also brought up a memory of a post I shared a while ago about a longtime friend of mine. I can't remember what I said exactly, but it was something about needing to let go of the friendship. Recognizing that the dynamic was no longer healthy for where I was at. 

And you know what happened?? The relationship transformed and I feel like we are better friends than we've ever been. We communicate better. There's more openness, more vulnerability, and more safety. 

Sometimes letting go of dynamics does include ending relationships. 

But sometimes letting go of dynamics allows space for transformation. It allows space for transcendence. It's a powerful way to live your boundaries and for both people to show up more authentically and intentionally. 

I'm finding that the more I step into my values and integrity, asserting my boundaries, I'm continually surprised by how much better things get, or how things fall away. 

I used to be afraid that by "failing" I would ultimately lose in life. 

Instead I find that I'm winning in ways that far exceed any expectation I could have ever had for life.

If you find that you need to let go, fall, or feel like you can't keep going. Know that's not a bad thing. It's not the end. Rather it's the beginning... And now you get to be the one to define everything about your life!

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If you want help and support letting go of the things that no longer serve you in your life, schedule a free call and let's chat and see what I can do for you! I'd love to support you through this process.